Intro

I’m no longer teaching English which makes me happy and frees up time to do my new job, making phone calls to perspective clients to ship their vehicles across the USA. I’m not having much success, but I am learning a lot. Also I’m being rejected which prepares me mentally to be fine with being rejected by women (and life in general.) Fear and uncomfortableness with being rejected has been an obstacle of meeting women all my life (and taking chances.) I’ve been afraid of rejection so I don’t make the effort to talk to women or be sexual with the women that I already know. (and go for my dreams.) Yet recently, I approached and spoke with 2 girls on the street yesterday. A little victory. In the past alcohol has helped me overcome that fear, but lately I haven’t been drinking alcohol very much. 

Speaking of teaching English. Right before I quit, the company I worked for, BBE Languages, assigned me a class that began at 7am. I woke up groggy as hell at 6:45. (all my life I got to bed at 2 or 3am) When I taught the class I looked like a wreck, like a was extremely hung over. I hadn’t drank my coffee yet, either. I had my camera on and none of my 5 students had their cameras on. It was a strange situation. That was the straw that broke the camels back.

La Motometraje

I’ve been filming my motorcycle rides. I have a DJI Action camera that I attach to my handle bars and I upload the videos to a Youtube Channel “Moto Medellin” Who knows maybe the channel will get many views and make me some money some day, but I’m not holding my breath. I’ve been uploading many videos to Youtube since 2010, yet nothing has ever paid a penny. But I love creating videos.

Parque Social

At least 4 days a week I go to a place in Medellin called Parque Carlos Restrepo. Lot’s of people hanging out there, drinking and smoking weed. Live music, too. I want to talk the people, but I’m shy, so I watch the people, I drink a beer, and I write. Only one beer because I’m riding a motorcycle and riding around here is precarious enough while sober. 

La Unica

One day, I met a girl who was selling books at a mall. Her name is Evelin. I asked her if she wanted to see a movie with me. Her niece went with us. We saw a movie based on an Agatha Christi book. It was dubbed in Spanish so I didn’t understand everything, but I enjoyed the challenge of trying to decipher the meaning by the body language and facial expressions. I’ve spoken Spanish and studied Spanish for over 20 years. If someone many years ago would have told me that I would still be this deficient at Spanish after 20+ years, I wouldn’t have believed them.  

Poco Alcohol

I rarely, rarely party while living here in Medellin. It’s not the lack of desire, I just can’t ride a motorcycle after drinking beer. Too dangerous. Plus to get home I have to ride up a curvy steep hill and it’s difficult even if I’m sober. I live so far from civilization. Man, I have to move to the city. I live in the sticks and the lack of social activity bothers me.  

Truco Social

I figured out a new technique to get over my shyness and talk to strangers and specifically to talk to women. I have a clipboard with a list of 10 questions. Interesting questions, for example: 

1. In what way would you like to be better?
2. What makes you laugh out loud?
3. If you were in a circus what would you do?
4. What’s something that I would never guess about you?
5. What 3 words best describe you?
6. What do you wish that people understand better about you?
7. What was the last funny video that you saw?
8. If you were a superhero what would be your superpower?
9. What’s something popular now that bothers you?
10. If you could know the answer to a question about your future, what would be that question?

So far everyone has reacted positively.

I find it easy to approach strangers using this method and the conversations are always good and they continue after the questions have been answered. Yet, I perhaps leave the conversation too early (I still have the belief that I’m bothering them.) and I haven’t asked for any girl’s phone number yet, which is my goal eventually.

Aplicacion Bumble

I’ve been using a dating app called “Bumble.” It’s like Tinder. It’s popular here in Colombia. I’ve been corresponding with a couple of ladies. I asked one out to have a cup of coffee, initially she said yes then she went radio silent. This happened on Tinder, too. I’ve discovered that if I ask the girl to meet in person too early they don’t respond well, they possibly get spooked. In Bogota, I did happen to arrange a date with a girl on Tinder. She was 50 minutes late for the first date. And she cancelled about 45 minutes before we were to meet up for the 2nd date. I was on the bus on they way to meet her when she told me. Oh well, the search continues. BTW, I’m nervous about meeting new people so I kinda understand. 

 I’ve had a few dates with Evelin.  If it continues to go well I may settle down with her. Y’now marry and the whole bit. 

 I’m getting better at my new job, arranging the interaction of people who want to ship their cars with carriers who want to ship cars. I enjoy it even though I pull lot’s of hours.

Conclusion:

My whole life has lead me here: Living on top of a green mountain outside a major city in Colombia in South America. Don’t know if this is the best place for me. Pages turn.